Stumble Into Indonesia's Unseen Places
Submitted by viravira on 20 June 2013 • Opinion
Phew! The wedding is done, I’m a married woman now. All the bustles preparing for D-day have passed, teaching me personal lessons, too many to describe here. One thing for sure, I am grateful to Diyan’s and my parents for letting us decide on so many things for our wedding, a luxury that many Indonesian couples don’t have.Kon-Tiki Photography. Thank you, cousins Riri & Didi!
Having that said, there were certainly some compromises we needed to do, as being married here means being married to the whole big family of your spouse. So I could forget about having a wedding wearing shorts, a tank top and flip flops on a beach somewhere, but instead I chose a laid back open-aired little venue with not so many guests (trust me, 300 invites is not that many according to Indonesian standard!) with modern touch for the decoration. And it wouldn’t be a perfect wedding if there were no drama about the dress! LOL…Muty, a travel (among others) enthusiast
Well, yes and no. Diyan’s and my family are both originated from West Sumatra, so that makes us Minangnese. Here Diyan is wearing a Malay influenced suit that’s widely worn by Minangnese men on special occasions, combined with the hat called “saluak” and a piece of golden-thread cloth called “songket” wrapped around his waist. Being somewhat detached from my root culture, I’ve never been aware of saluak before, though I must’ve seen it in my relatives’ weddings or pictures. Diyan wanted to wear it so much, cos he too, just discovered about that hat, and thought it’d be a nice Minangnese touch, and I agreed. The shoes? Diyan is wearing a pair of simple black shoes that he can wear with modern suit and tie later.
As for my clothes, I’m wearing a modified “kebaya” top, a Javanese influenced blouse that’s become a national woman clothes in Indonesia. To keep it still on the Minang side, I have the kebaya combined with an old songket sarong that my mom has had since 23 years ago. Old songkets can be of very high value, and I accidentally ripped Mom’s songket a little just below the kebaya line. Oh no! (Luckily, Mom was so cool about it, saying, “It’s fine, you’re my last daughter anyway.” Phew!) The hairdo? Honestly, I’m not sure where that kind of hairdo is originated, but I love the ‘flower garden’ embedded on my hair! Hahaha..Danti, a college friend who came all the way from Bandung 🙂
Hm, why not? I’m sure being married will affect my traveling, as I will spend at least a weekend per month visiting my in-laws in the nearby town, discuss with Diyan before hitting that “Purchase” button on airlines websites, and small stuff like that. But so far I don’t see why I should stop traveling at all. After all, it was a night at Baduy Dalam that got us close with each other.. (ooh, how scandalous!). And seeing how my parents fill up their mileage and passports even until today, I really can’t see why being married is thought as a travel stopper. 🙂
Plus, Mumun will kill me if I stop traveling!